I wanted to create a meditation for anyone who is currently experiencing grief and loss because many of my friends are currently suffering after losing people close to their hearts, such as family and friends.
The recent tragic loss of Caroline Flack, host of the TV show “Love Island”, led to heartache, shock and confusion for many people, myself included. My husband and I are huge fans of the show and having worked in TV for many years we had met her and knew many others close to her.
I didn’t know her well but knew she was going through a difficult time, the press made it very clear. The most shocking part is that she always seemed so bubbly and confident. On screen, she came across as outgoing and feisty. And yet, I am painfully reminded that you NEVER know what is going on in someone else’s internal world. Many people learn how to mask their pain and suffering through a facade of smiles. There’s often no clear signs or symptoms of underlying mental health issues.
So what can we do?
First and foremost, if you are struggling right now, don’t be too proud or afraid to reach out for help. Our westernized culture teaches us to hide our emotions or “toughen up”, which is complete BS. If you are feeling confused and scared, believe me when I say YOU ARE NOT ALONE. The good news is that there is support out there for you. I promise there are ways to help ease the suffering that you are currently experiencing.
Philip Schofield put it perfectly, ‘In a world when you can be anything BE KIND’. So please kind to others and be kind to yourself. Life is tough enough as it is we don’t need to make it any harder.
I’ve created this audio guided meditation below for anyone going through the feelings of grief that range from shock, sadness, fear, depression, numbness, denial and anger. These emotions can be so overwhelming and intense that we may not know how to process them. We may try to escape these uncomfortable feelings by running away, numbing them, or pushing them away. However, these are only temporary fixes, and they don’t allow you to properly grieve.
If you need something immediately, try some slow long breaths. The exhale should last twice as long as the inhale. This is a proven method that helps calm the nervous system. After calming yourself, you may find the courage to pick up the phone and a close friend or family member.
Be kind and I hope this heart healing meditation helps.
Here is the AUDIO ONLY version.